“Aren’t you afraid? Do you think it’s safe for a woman to travel alone?”
I got so many questions like this while I was abroad. People were looking at me like I was insane. But solo travel was an empowering for me, a life-changing experience and it outgrew my personalities more and more. It’s not always enjoyable when I am alone but if you want a rainbow you gotta put up with the rain.
So, why do I travel solo? And why should you consider doing it too?
Freedom. A Chance to be Yourself.
Have you ever noticed how you decide what to do, what to eat, where to go, or many other things when you are with plenty of people? Your friends like this, so you follow them. Your family decide to do this, so you have to get along with it. Mostly everyone around your life influence your activity for the day. It is the same when you are travelling with other people. You have to adapt with their schedule and their ability for the trip. Sometimes it is even hard to make a decision when there is a group of people with different interests.
When you travel alone YOU are the decision maker.
That means you can do whatever you want to do. You can eat what you’re craving for today, you can go to the places you want to go, you can choose the outfit you want to wear, you can extend you stay or you can move on. Everything is up to you.
You are in charge of your own destiny.
You will gain Independence.
Many of my female friends say that they are more confident and feel happier in a “safe area”, either with a life-partner, family or just with friends. We do feel comfortable when we are surrounded by the warmth of the people that we love.
I feel blessed having so many people who love and care for me. But each of them has their own problems and you can’t always depend on them. Sometimes you need to trust in yourself and be aware how far it is your own will to survive
Solo travelling taught me how to get to know new people, how to drive a motorbike, how to handle my packing problems, how to book and cancel my own tickets, how to find the road and to read maps. I learned so many new things while I was on the road.
Never put the key of your happiness in someone else’s pocket.
It will boost Your Confidence
I had my times when silly things happened to me like getting lost in nowhere, or being scammed during my travels. Bad things can happen but these experiences will let you grow personally and you will figure out your own limits.
You will be more confident because you have seen the good and bad things in the world, you have mastered many challenges in your life, you know what your goals are and you have prepared to reach them. You know you can rely on yourself.
I am who I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.
You will become more sociable.
When you travel with your family and friends you will have plenty of memorable moments with them. However you might not notice the other backpackers in your hostel or in the restaurant. However, when you travel alone you will recognize the people around you and you will notice that it is surprisingly easy to make new friends. Even though you might have language barriers and cultural differences, people will become more tolerant and most likely glad to offer you a hand, especially when you are alone. You will experience and feel the human kindness.
So you might think that travelling alone is sad and lonely. It is most definitely not.
My days of solo travelling are always filled with new people and travelers who are part of my adventures. It is not the beautiful destination that makes the trip worthwhile, but the welcoming hands and the smiling faces of the people that pass along the journey.
A simple hello could lead to a million things.
You will be grateful of your life.
Travelling solo has taught me so many things in life. Personally I really love it. However not all women will make the same experiences as I made. You might not like solo travel and that’s okay. At least you have tried it and you have learned that you need to have human’s affection in your life. You might not like the long road and suddenly you missed your old desk in the office. Whatever it is, you will feel grateful about your old life.
Or, you might love the freedom and consider to be a world traveller instead. You might become addicted to the uncertainty of life and curious to what it has to offer for you. You might realize that you don’t need to follow the rule that has been set for you.
Nonetheless, the first time of solo travelling will make you wonder what the purpose of your life is. You will find out that there are far more options than just settle down with what has served for you. It will open up new perspectives of your life.
Take that chance once in a lifetime. And ladies, here are 6 things Danielle would like to tell you.
Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for the great.
Marina is half Chinese and half Sundanesse, 100% pledge in love being Indonesian. Beside spending her time wandering solo out of nowhere, she is still pursuing her passion in art and design. She is still chasing her dream to be a great graphic designer and a traveler at the same time.
She has been a solo backpacker for months in South East Asia, including in her beloved country Indonesia. She is still crossing her bucket list and preparing for the next adventure, while sharing her experiences in her blog Jejak Marina. Her goal is to inspire more Indonesian women to travel and see the world.
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